Helping Hand

There is always one thing in life that we love to do, giving a HELPING HAND. We tend to lend our helping hands to others as we dislike seeing them in difficulties. Nobody would. I too portray this traits of not liking to see my friends, whether is my schoolmates, unimates, or even my work colleagues, to face difficult times. If I am able to help, why should I not, rite ?

But the problem comes is that some of us, I know I was once, expect things in return for helping others in troubled time. That was a big mistake cause in truth, most of the time, almost everyone that got help from others, ended up gone separate ways. I am sorry to tell you this, but in reality, people come to you only cause they find you resourceful, and when your fuel runs dry, that is where you become expandable to them.

However, not all people are like that. There are still people that will in turn will help you in the future after you helped them in the past. The secret behind this is that it all comes down to your level of friendship. I have a friend from office who actually dislikes me for the way I am. He kinda bullied me in a way at office for my awkwardness. And, whenever he is in trouble, he refused to ask for help and rather endure the struggle all by himself. However, after knowing him that his resource is running dry, I decided that I would helped him despite his refusal in the beginning. Now, you all might be guessing that I would expect him to return the favor rite ? Well, that was then. Now, I think what that makes me feel happy of helping people is that, at least I don't get to see the people around me struggle in enduring life struggle. He still bullied me in a way, but the way he did was now more constructive to improve my personalities. And that is not what I expect, but somehow, it is something that eventually helped me to be better. Ended up, we get along better now.

So, to my readers, don't expect anything in return when helping your friends, cause most of the time, you will not get it. If you willing to help, your mindset must be ready for the outcome. After all, you only help because you wanted to, not being forced to. Lastly, remember that friendship is important. Thus, never let your expectation of favor returns be the one that ruins you and your friends relationship.

Choices

I've been through many moments in life. Some brought joy and happiness into my life, some brought sorrow and tears in my eyes. Looking back at all the moments that I have been through, it comes down to one thing. All these moments that happened to me through the course of my life, it is all nothing more but the CHOICE I've made. Choice is always been in each and every one of us to decide, it was never meant for others to make it for you, even when the others are telling you to do this or do that. In the end, it is still up to oneself to make the call. It is a mistake that we blamed others for the choice that we made. This has been indeed what many do in order to become the victim in their stories. Nevertheless, no matter how it is, your choice is your consequences to take.

Past eight years since I last blog, I've been trying to get myself to be part of the society which I thought that is how I can get friends in life. I've tried to make them feel comfortable by being nice to them. It was actually a bad choice I've made cause I found that this has in turn made me to lose myself. Consequently, many more left me. I always have a thought that people need friends in life to enjoy life better. It is true in a way as with friends, the are things can be done together. Outing, movies, lepak, mamak; those are some of the things that it's best to be done with friends than to be done alone. There's nothing wrong to do this alone, but it will be a dull moment. But when comes down to it, are they really "friends " ? Have that question comes in your mind ?

It's been one hell of a ride for me. I think one of the greatest moment in life is that when I find out what I really want to do in life. Despite there are people around me that will try to sway me away from my end game goal, it does not make me change my mind to make my dreams come true, as I've made my choice. Still, there are people around that will be there by your side to see you achieve your dreams. You can keep that people in your life, but, in the end, they too have their choice in life to achieve their own dreams. Thus, appreciate them, but you have to make your choice to what you really want to do with the life that is given to you.